What is That to You?

Each month, I meet with a group of men a little older than I am. We walk together through a curriculum designed to help us find our strengths and passions and act on them. These men challenge and encourage me.

Photo Courtesy Ktoine, CC
Photo Courtesy Ktoine, CC

Lately, I’ve been really struggling with a difficult (and ugly) career change. If I could make a clean break, it wouldn’t be so difficult, but because I’m married into the family that owns the business, well…I really can’t get away from it.

A struggle that has been attacking me, and that attacks us all, is the nagging jealousy of someone else’s success. When I was there, things weren’t allowed to go this smoothly. If I were there, I would make different (and better) decisions. If I were there….

As embarrassing as it is to admit, we might even wish that someone or something would fail without us.

The salve for these deep wounds of the heart came from an unlikely source. In a video session, Kay Warren introduced me to the WITTY principle found in John 21:22. Peter, asking Christ about the actions of another disciple, is gently rebuked. “If I want him to remain until I return, (W)hat (I)s (T)hat (T)o (Y)ou? As for you, follow me!”

Jesus basically says, “So what? Focus on what you’re doing.” Discover and find affirmation for your strengths and talents, line them up with your passions, and make it work for the greater good.

Whether you’re Christian or not, this is a powerful statement. By turning and coveting another person’s success or focusing your energy on wishing him ill, you’re short-changing your own success and working your own demise.

It’s a hard lesson to learn and a harder one to practice, but beginning today I will focus on what can do to live my own purpose.

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7 thoughts on “What is That to You?

  1. It’s great your getting around people on a regular basis who foster your growth. That’s huge bro!

    Staying focused on what God has called us to do is so essential. However, it can also be challenging. Great things happens when we move toward our purpose.

      1. I totally know and understand the importance of being in a group/men’s group. I’m in a couple different ones now and it’s been so valuable for me.

      1. These are men from my church; not long ago, we held a two-day retreat and connected through an amazing program that runs parallel to Bob Buford’s Halftime program– but for younger men. I hope these pilot groups get flying; the experience (and subsequent growth) is one we could all benefit from!

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